This weekend was a trying one for me and Emma. She’s at a stage where she’s testing limits to see what she can get away with and I’m just testy. She pulled out all the stops, some of which left me reeling.

But then I got her newsletter from school with this at the end. I felt like it had been written for me, and having read some of my mommy friend’s tweets and messages I figured they might need this too…
(found this picture and it said so much…and I’m sure you’ll all agree)
If I Had My Child to Raise Over Again

If I Had My Child to Raise All Over Again,
I’d build her self-esteem first, and the house later.
I’d finger paint more, and point my finger less.
I would do less correcting and more connecting.
I’d take my eyes off my watch, and watch with my eyes.
I would care to know less and know to care more.
I’d take more hikes and fly more kites.
I’d stop playing serious, and seriously play.
I would run through more field and gaze at more stars.
I’d do more hugging and less tugging.
I’d see the oak tree in the acorn more often.
I would be first less often, and affirm much more.
I’d model less about the love of power,
And more about the power of love.


8 thoughts on “If I Had My Child to Raise Over Again

  1. I love it! We have a gorgeous boy called Tsiamo (means “it is good” in Tswana) Your husband works with a friend of mine, Kerry Jackson, find me on Facebook, would love to connect.
    I have the added uncertainty that Tsimmy has two fathers and no mom (he says he doesn't need one as he has his Papa, that is me, Grant is his daddy.
    Carlos De Andrade

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